I hear it every day. "I don't know what to do to help." "I don't wan' t to say/do the wrong thing." "I'm afraid to mess up." Too often these words are nothing more than an excuse to do nothing. They are a dose of paralytic fear that serves no one, least of all … Continue reading What to Do If You “Don’t Know What to Do”
Something that I notice as I navigate online spaces that are dedicated to anti-racism work with white people is that in the ones that seem to have the largest followings and support there is a foundational sentiment of kindness and sometimes even an expression of loving acceptance for the white people in those spaces. … Continue reading I Am the Broom
I discovered Instagram last year or so. I began using it as an alternative to Facebook and discovered that I had a lot more control over the appearance of toxic waste in my online feed. I keep Facebook out of necessity--it reaches the most people when getting the word out about events, causes, etc. … Continue reading Love Letters to My Grandchildren
I am an angry Black Womxn because white people keep showing me why I need to stay mad. ~ Gaian Bird Always reading Women Who Run with the Wolves, by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. It's one of those books like a holy scripture for me. In those lists of the the top three or four people … Continue reading Embracing the Dark
I posted this quote this morning on learning that Ursula LeGuin has passed on from this place. I have not been a follower or reader of her work, but this quote sounded a bell within me. I began writing when I was about nine. I remember being in love with the idea of a diary, … Continue reading Writing to Survive
I posit that the behaviors of nice and good are not the same and we need to stop conflating the two conditions. Whereas, a nice person may appear to display qualities we associate with goodness, i.e. kindness, pleasant personality, courteousness, politeness, thoughtful, etc., whether or not they are actually a good person lies in their ethics. Goodness, in this instance, is about a deeper conviction, a virtue (a loaded word, but it fits), a core value of justice over propriety, a willingness to speak truth to power even when it is inconvenient or of personal cost...
“Are you sure, sweetheart, that you want to be well? Just so’s you’re sure, sweetheart, and ready to be healed, cause wholeness is no trifling matter. A lot of weight when you’re well.” ~Toni Cade Bambara, The Salt Eaters As spiritual sojourner on a non-traditional path, many folks in the Black church (where I was … Continue reading How I Came to Radical Resistance of Spiritual White Women
White women have been one of the constant violences in my life, a life of many inventive and horrible forms of violence. Because the violence you (the collective and individual white woman) do is so soul killingly insidious, and pervasive I choose to take you head on here. Leave your guilt, your shame, your not all's, your what about me's and all Beckery outside of these pages. My goal with you is to provoke change that will incite you in your transformation into a white woman who actually embodies the qualities of an ally in the fight to dismantle your own internal racism...